Friday, August 29, 2008

Projects, Projects and more Projects

Our landscaping was completed this week in our backyard. It looks amazing, I will post pictures soon. We now just need to wait oh 2 years or so to let the plants mature. We have 2 more major projects for this year, one is to get an irrigation system and the other will be to have the house painted. It really does need a nice fresh coat. We have so many other major projects but they will have to wait.

The theme for this weekend is to complete some projects around the house that have been on our list for a while. This will be the last "free" weekend we will have for a while. Next weekend we have to get back in the groove of having a game on both Saturday (basketball) and Sunday(baseball). A few things on our list will be to either build or buy a sandbox. I am leaving the build or buy up to my husband but I want it now. We will also be cleaning out the storage area. We have so much junk in there that we need to sort through. Some of the stuff may be listed on Craigs List this weekend. I am also going to finally be cleaning out some junk drawers in the kitchen. I am tired of opening the drawers to only have stuff falling out. I won't bore you with all the other projects but we will be busy.

We are hoping to be able to do something fun this weekend with the boys. We will have to see how it all plays out. I am glad we have a 3 day weekend. I think the boys need a little break and then a short school week. They are exhausted by the end of the day and it is very apparent in their behavior. This morning was a rough morning. The first words out of my mouth were to keep their hands to themselves or they would lose a privilege. I am glad to report that everyone made it out the door just fine. They will be happy when they get home as we have a few friends coming over to play. I planned a last minute happy hour to celebrate the first week of school but a lot of people are heading to the beach one last time before summer is officially over.

We are hoping for a little nicer weather this weekend than today (it has sprinkled on and off all day). We are heating the pool to get in a little swimming also. Hope everyone has a great Labor day weekend.

Wednesday, August 27, 2008

School and more

I realized this morning at breakfast when the boys were arguing, that school is a good thing to keep them focused. I do have to admit I (and the baby too) missed them yesterday. It was our real first day back on a routine. The baby and I went to my fitness gym yesterday morning as we did most morning during the summer. I looked in the rear view mirror and he just seemed a little lonely in the back. When he threw his tantrum because I wouldn't let him have any more of my smoothie there was no one else there to get his attention. No doubt before long we will all be back in the groove.

The bus stop is interesting this year. There are so many new faces from the neighborhood. We lost lots of kids this year to middle school but the kindergartners are making up the difference and then some. This one lady I have met, I will call her Ms. Snooty (I think she is nice but everything I hear from others makes her seem snooty. I will wait to pass judgement on what I think as she has always been pleasant to me). Ms. Snooty has had her now 1st grader in private school for the last 3 or so years. Her choice would have been to keep him in the private school but for whatever reason he is now in the public school (lucky us he is in EE's class) with the majority of the other kids in the neighborhood. She is having such a hard time coping. I really thought she was going to cry on the first day of school. Now I have always been a fan of private schools. I went to one for K-12. However, we moved to this county specifically because the school system here is one of the best. I would like to explain this to her and tell her to get over it. My boys learned so much in Kindergarten, I can't imagine what 1st grade will be like. When I was young I had 1/2 day kindergarten and I am sure I was not learning what they are learning these days. Times have certainly changed.

BABY News
The baby had his 18 month check up today. It is good to be assured that he is growing and his behavior is normal for a child his age. Tantrums are starting already. He was hamming it up for the Doc. And no tear was shed for his one shot. The nurse was great and let me hold him while she poked him and was done in an instant. He was so enthralled by the band aid she put on.

As far as the Doc, I do like her(although very hard to compare her to my Doc from NC). The Doc is very soft spoken but she is good with the baby. She always answers all my questions even when I ask about the other boys. I am hoping we won't see too much of her this winter. The baby got sick a lot last winter and was on a nebulizer all winter and into spring.

Monday, August 25, 2008

First Day of First Grade


EE and Jay on their first day of First Grade.


Waiting and getting on the bus.

We met the teachers on Friday at a meet and greet. The boys got to see their classrooms and most importantly see if they have any friends in class. It seems like most of the people they had in their classes last year on all spread into different classes this year. One good thing is that the boys will be able to walk into class together because their rooms are right across from each other. I think they will have a good year and they will have the opportunity to make new friends. If you notice in the picture above the boys have a target bag filled with the school supplies they are required to bring in (there backpack is filled with supplies also). I did not realize that we were supposed to take our supplies on Friday when we met the teachers. This is our first full year at this school. At least I will know for next year.

I may have over committed myself but I will be actively involved in the school this year. I have volunteered as a co-chair on the Special Events committee on the PTA. We have 4 events that are spread out throughout the year and I have already scouted out my helpers for some of these events. I will be a Room Parent for one of my boys' class and I will help with the other class if no one has signed up. I am also making plans to volunteer in each of their classrooms at least 2 times per month or more if I can get it to work out with finding a sitter. I like to experience the class dynamics and the only way to do that is to be involved. I am sure I will have more to say about this as the year goes on.

The Moms and some Dads got together at my neighbors' annual Back to school breakfast. It was nice to see old faces as it has been all summer since we have seen lots of these people. My husband was home from work today so he was able to take the baby while I stayed and mingled.

Off to enjoy the last hour and a half I have before the boys come home.

Sunday, August 24, 2008

It is good to be me

The husband and I had a little get away this past weekend for free. The husband's company does business with the Renaissance hotel and they were sponsoring a Yankee's Family weekend for some of their clients. Before I go further, we are NOT Yankee fans but read the rest of the story and you will understand why we obliged their wishes with our attendance.

The husband came home from work early on Friday and after we got everything situated at home (more on that later) we took off to check into the hotel. The room was very nice and we were greeted with food, cotton candy, pretzels, caramel popcorn and beer. In addition, we both got an Orioles T-shirt and a hat. My shirt is very cute. A reception was being held that evening but we decided to bag it and go out to dinner. It is not often that we can get out alone and have un-interrupted conversation. We walked to this place called Flemings and our meal was spectacular. We both got steaks and split these potatoes that were to die for. It is my new favorite place. As we were walking back, we noticed that Billy Idol was playing in a music pavilion located on the Harbor. We debated about staying around to listen but decided we would head back to the hotel. Sleeping wasn't so great. We had probably 5 guys (Yankee fans at that) staying on one side of our room who came in around 2 am and made lots of ruckus.

Saturday we joined the group for breakfast and realized that we should have been at the reception the night before. So we kind of brushed over the subject and told them we had dinner reservations. We spent most of Saturday at the house getting some chores completed. Then back to the hotel for a reception. The food was spectacular at all events. We ate sliders, nacho chips, homemade chips with dressing, wings and lettuce wraps. All the beer and wine you could drink. After about 1 hour we started our walk to the stadium, Camden Yards. The Orioles were playing the Yankees. We were in a suite with you guessed it more food and drink. I couldn't eat any more until they brought in some chocolate. We headed back to the hotel where once again our sleep was interrupted by the guys next door. But when we got back in our room we had more gifts waiting for us: 6 drinks, snacks and some Oriole tchotchkes.

We woke up Sunday and took a walk to and around Fell's Point. It is a very cute area with lots of row homes, restaurants, pubs and boutiques. The last event was breakfast in the Presidential Suite. The spread was unbelievable. I got a canadian bacon and egg croissant, homemade potatoes and a few pastries. After more hobnobbing with the hotel group we headed home. It was good to get home and be with the boys again. We brought home t-shirt for the boys. When we told them we had a gift, the first thing EE said was "I hope it is not a shirt". I guess I can remember not really caring about t-shirts when I was that young. We will have to keep that in mind for the future.

The boys were watched by their cousin (my sister's daughter) who has been staying with us. It has been nice having her here especially so that the husband and I can do outings like this every once in a while.

Thursday, August 21, 2008

Over-scheduling a myth or not?

In our long car ride to the beach a few weeks ago, I was able to catch up on some reading in my magazines. I love to read my magazines. I find many good articles, recipes or helpful hints. I read one article about parents over-scheduling their children's activities. I have been one to always keep this in the front of my mind when signing my boys up for activities.

I did not do many activities outside of school for most of my 12 years. This was probably a combination of my parents not really "pushing" me to do extra activities and me not going after what I wanted to do. My parents came from a totally different culture and were very protective of all 5 of their children. I was child number 5 so all the energy had probably been drained by the time I came around. There were also double standards in my family, my brothers got to do lots more than the girls in the family. I am not complaining, this is just the way it was.

On the other hand, my husband played a lot of sports when he was young. He really enjoyed tennis and golf and is still a very good player in both. My husband is very competitive.

I would love to schedule my boys in everything under the sun (maybe stemming from the fact that I did not do much). I would like them to play sports, learn a musical instrument and be part of clubs. But I do keep a good schedule in check for them. In the fall, they are signed up for baseball (they have been playing for the last 3 years and really have fun) and an instructional basketball league. Baseball will keep us busy one evening a week and on Sundays at 11am, both for a few hours. Basketball will be on Saturdays at 9am. Both sports will last 2 months. I also wanted to sign them up for instructional golf, not sure yet. This would be one day a week for an hour. See how the extra activities just start adding up. In the winter, I will sign them up for basketball. It will be so cold outside that a good indoor winter sport will be great to keep them active.

I do have several reasons that I would like my boys to play sports:
  1. I would like them to excel at a sport and have fun with it.
  2. Keep them active.
  3. It is a great way for them to socialize and meet new friends.
  4. Increase their self esteem
  5. As they get older I hope that sports will still be in their life and they would maybe be able to avoid drugs and alcohol.
  6. Stay motivated to be in good shape.

I don't want my boys to burnout at the age of 10 or sooner. So I will try to set our limits and let them experiment with different activities, let them continue the ones they enjoy and drop the ones that are not important.

I was happy to read that over-scheduling is considered as 5 or more activities and that at any one time 60% of children participate in extra activities and about 1 in ten is over-scheduled. I will make sure that I stay in the population of those other 9.

The baby will be enrolled in My Gym again in the fall. This is a class for little ones to be able to climb, jump and roll around on a padded surface. It helps them gain strength and stability with some of the exercises they do. It is also a way for me to meet Moms.

Tuesday, August 19, 2008

Should I feel Guilty?

I feel extremely guilty about that fact that I am happy that school starts next week. I have spoken to several other Moms who are all sad that summer is ending and that their kids will be back in school. Are you kidding me? I have gotten to the point where I can not stand the bickering that goes on daily between EE and Jay.

Some days I would just love to turn on the TV and let them sit there all day. They would be occupied (read: out of my hair) and off of each other's backs. But I don't let the boys watch TV. Although, they do get to play WII but I limit the time and it is not everyday. They do get to watch some occasionally but the TV is not on everyday. It is hard to believe because their first year of life I put them in front (strapped in their bouncy chairs) of Baby Einstein videos, 2 times a day. This was really the only break I got from the two of them. I loved this time of day. Yes, I had read the many articles stating how bad it is to let your children under the age of 2 watch TV. The TV sucks the imagination right out of their head. I didn't let that deter me one bit. Once they were able to play on their own the TV went away. For now, I will let them watch movies or a show from time to time. Their favorite shows are Hannah Montana and The Suite Life of Zack and Cody. Luckily, the boys do not need the TV to keep them entertained. They can typically find something to do on their own (especially bicker with each other): work on crafts, read a book or play outside. The baby is not interested in the TV. NOTE: I do not judge other because families work differently.

Well, just a few more days and we will have to start back on a routine ready or not. I look forward to getting the household harmony back.

Our visitor

As I mentioned in a previous post my MIL visited this past weekend. I am very lucky to have great in-laws. We love having visitors and the boys loving hanging around their grandparents. We have only been in Maryland for the last 8 months so there is still a lot for us to see and do. We decided to ride the train into DC on Friday. We decided on a trolley tour as everything is very spread out in DC. We got to Union Station by 10am and were hoping to walk right onto the trolley. We ended up having to wait 45 minutes for an empty trolley to come by. The delay meant that we couldn't make the stops we wanted to. We were site seeing with 3 kids and you always have to stay on track as far as lunch and snacks go.

The boys did great in the trolley but asking them to walk a few blocks was way out of the question. We ended up having to stay on the trolley to get to a stop that had places to eat. Then of course we stopped by the White House.



Grandma with the grand kids. This is about the only picture I have that the baby is not crying and unhappy. It is hard to explain to an 18 month old that Mommy would like a picture with him smiling and happy.


More pictures!

Being on the trolley was nice because we were able to learn some history regarding some of the different areas in the city. Our next trip will include a visit to some of the memorials. In my senior year of high school (gosh I don't want to think about how many years ago that was), I took a school trip to DC. We were there for several days and made stops at each of the historical sites. I thoroughly enjoyed the trip there but don't think I appreciate it as much as I do now.

On Sunday, we took a Duck Tour around downtown Baltimore and the inner harbor. I never knew there was so much history in Baltimore. A few things to note: Edgar Allen Poe is buried here, Baltimore was the first place to have a YMCA (got to sing the song and do the hand motions), lots of very old churches and Micheal Phelps just purchased a place in Fell's point. Ok, the driver heard this from one of his friends who works in a bar. The Duck tour was nice (expect for the duck calls that were handed out) but it went so quickly that we hardly had a chance to see all of the different sites he pointed out.


Grandma and the boys at the inner harbor after our duck tour.

The rest of our weekend was spent playing in the pool and hanging out. One of the high points was making smores. YUMMY! We surely hope Grandma comes back to visit soon.

What I learned is that my kids aren't really all that interested in the DC stuff. They were all very well behaved but I don't think there interest is there yet. Maybe once we actually spend some time at the museums or memorials where we can explain the significance to them.

A good cry

We had a very busy weekend. My Mother-in-law (MIL) came for a visit. We had a great time and did lots of site seeing. I will post more about this later.

My boys slept in this morning until about 7:30. Yes, believe it or not that is sleeping in for my boys. The baby woke up around 7 but he can keep himself fairly happy playing in his crib for a while. So I watched The Today show to get caught up on Olympic news. As I was in the baby's room getting him changed, Jay comes into the room in hysterics. I had no idea what was wrong with him. He continued to cry and I could not get a word out of him. I thought maybe he had a bad dream and was thinking about it. But he said no when I asked. Then I thought well maybe he doesn't feel well. But I got a no to that one also. I am trying to think of what could possibly be wrong with him, he did just wake up. So I went on to get the baby dressed and let him chill out a little bit. I finally got him to stop crying and he said that he forgot to tell his Grandma goodbye last night. Grandma had to leave early in the morning to catch a 5:30am flight. I thought all goodbyes were said last night as she kissed them before they went to sleep. I was able to calm him down by a promise to call her later on today.

That is my Jay. Most of the time he can be so kind hearted. He loves having family around. As a reward on his chart one week he wanted all of his cousins to come visit us to swim in his pool. He does a dark side some of the time too but for right now we will just focus on his sweetness.

Thursday, August 14, 2008

Communism alive in MD

All right I may be exaggerating a bit but I am feeling a bit restricted lately. We moved into a community that has a very active homeowners association. We received this 30 page document outlining the restrictions of the community. The document talks about playsets, landscaping, pools, fences and a host of other changes to the appearance of your home. Even though you have the guidelines all changes must be documented on a HOA form, mapped out on the lot map and submitted to the architectural review board (ARB) for approval. You got it....my changes will have to be approved by others in the community. These include changes in the backyard of your home as well.

We would like our house to look nice and we will do all we can to keep it up. We did the hard scape in our backyard around the pool to make it look a little nicer and now we are doing landscaping along the fence line to get a bit more privacy. I submitted all the paperwork and I am waiting to hear back from them. The company will start on the 25th and will be done by the 26th. I actually know the head of the ARB board. Right now I am not really liking him much....in fact I will call him an A**hole. I do like to mess with him every opportunity I get. I saw him out for a walk the other day and told him I was submitting paper work for the improvements we were doing. He asked me "When are you looking to have these done?". My response was they ARE starting on the 25th. of this month. He gave me a sour look and then said it shouldn't be a problem.

The other reason I can not stand the HOA is that I got a letter in the mail stating that the front of our house needed to be pressure washed because it was dirty. I have 15 days to respond. Yeah it is still on my list to do. Ok, our house is mainly brick on the front. We have a bit of stucco on the top and then the gutters. Yes, they are a bit dirty. On our list of to dos has been get the house painted. My initial thought was that my husband would get a pressure washer and wash the front of our house. Then I could respond and let them know that we did in fact pressure wash the front of our house as the letter stated. The fact is that pressure washing will do absolutely nothing to remove the dirt. We will need to get up there and scrub or we will have to get it painted. Since we had planned on the painting that is what we will do. But it will take time to get estimates and then make a decision.

To top all of this off my husband is an incessant worrier. He worries about the littlest of things. It doesn't matter what I say he tends to worry regardless. So now he is worried that the ARB will not approve our plans. You got to be kidding me. They would have no reason not to approve.

There I said it all to you and I have to say I am very vocal around here about how much I dislike the HOA.